Relationship terminology can be confusing, but we’ve compiled a guide to explain how you are related to that cousin three times removed.
How are we related?
That’s a question that we have been asked quite a bit lately, and sometimes determining that exact familial connection with someone else can be confusing.
- What is the difference between a second cousin and a first cousin, once removed?
- What does the “removed” mean, anyway?
- If my mom has a cousin, how is he related to me?
- Is my grandfather’s sister my great-aunt, or my grand-aunt?
If you have ever felt confusion over these terms, you are not alone!
Most of us know that our parents’ siblings’ children are our first cousins, and that our parents’ siblings themselves are our aunts and uncles. That’s easy enough to understand. It’s when you get to more distant connections that it becomes confusing.
If you share the same grandparents, there is no difference in the generations, so you are first cousins. If you share the same great-grandparents, you are second cousins. If you share the same great-great-grandparents you are third cousins, and so on.
However, if your grandparents are someone else’s great-grandparents, then you are first cousins once removed, because there is a generational gap between you. The thing to remember is that the “removed” is used when you and your relative are of different generations. For instance, you and your cousin’s child, or you and your father’s cousin are of different generations, so there is going to be a “removed” in a description of your relationship.
The numerical value, “once removed” or “three times removed,” counts back how many generations you have to go to find the common ancestor between you and that other relative.
For example, if your first cousin has children, those children are your first cousins once removed, because your grandparents are their great-grandparents (just one generation). If those children then have children, they are your first cousins twice removed, because your grandparents are their great-great-grandparents (which is two generations).
Similarly, your mom’s cousin is your first cousin once removed, because his grandparents are your great-grandparents. There is a generational difference. However, your mom’s cousin’s CHILD is your second cousin with no “removed” added, because the two of you share the same great-grandparents. There is no generational difference between the two of you, so there is no “remove.”
With regards to the difference between great-aunt, grand-aunt, etc. – this one is up to you! They’re just different terms that mean the same thing. The siblings of your grandparents can be called either your great-aunts and great-uncles, or your grand-aunts and grand-uncles.
The following chart may be helpful:
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What type of cousins have the same grandmother but different grandfathers ie gramma had 2 husbands
Me and my friend have the same 3rd cousin, does that make us related?
Depends on if that third cousin is related to you through the same people. They may be your third cousin on one side of their family, the side related to you, and they may be your friend’s third cousin on the other side of the family, the one not related to you.
Ok so I’m confused. So I’m dating this guy and his name is Jacob Schleichardt. Jacob has a cousin named Bailey Lane and she’s related to Nate Lane and my cousin Mikayla is married now to Nate. Does that make me and Jacob cousins too or no?
We would love to help you but we would need some additional information. Please contact us by filling out the form on our home page https://www.legacytree.com. We can point you in the right direction and give you a free estimate if research is needed.
My 4th great grandparents Fielding and Delphia have a daughter Geneviere and a son Stephen.
Stephen marries Nancy and they have a son, Sylvester.
Geneviere marries Phillip and they have a daughter, Hannah.
Sylvester and Hannah marry and have a son Cassius.
Cassius is my Grandmother’s father.
What is the relationship of Sylvester and Hannah to my grandmother other than her grandparents? Aunt and Uncle?
Other than parents, what is the relationship of Sylvester and Hannah? 1st cousins?
Thanks
If I understand your explanation correctly, Sylvester and Hannah would be great grand-aunt and great grand-uncle to your grandmother. You are correct, Sylvester and Hannah are first cousins. If you want to double-check this quick assessment, I suggest you contact us for a consultation session with a researcher.
My 6th great grand uncle is the same person as George Herbert Walker Bush’s 4th great grandfather. What is the relationship between me and George Bush?
Thanks!
If we understand your question correctly, this would make you 4th cousins, twice removed. It is always interesting to find you are distant relatives to someone notable.
MY GREAT GRANFATHER HAD 11 CHILDREN, WHAT ARE THEY TO ME?
Hi Greg,
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If someone’s great grandma is my great grandpa’s sister, what is that person to me?
Hi Delaney, thank you for reaching out to us! Here is a link to a handy and free Legacy Tree Genealogy family chart that you can download. This should answer your question! If you would like any assistance, feel free to contact us on our Get in Touch page for a free estimate on family tree research.
I’m confused. We don’t have the same grandparent’s but our grandparents are related (cousins). Fil’s grandma is related with Mad’s grandpa. Does it mean that Fil’s father is also related with Mad’s mother? How about us (children of both side)? What level of degree are we?
Help me. Thanks.
Hi Maria,
We would love to help you but we would need some additional information (sometimes family histories can seem confusing, especially without detailed research). Please contact us by filling out the form on our Get in Touch page. One of our Client Solutions Specialists can point you in the right direction and give you a free estimate if research is needed.
My husband’s DNA test results show my mother is his 4th cousin. What does that make my husband to me? A 4th cousin, once removed? A 5th cousin? I’m so confused. Does that make my husband our daughter’s distance cousin as well? 🤦♀️🤔🙄😣
Hi MD, DNA tests can yield confusing results for a variety of reasons. We have researchers who specialize in DNA that could pull data together and combine i with other resources to help fill in some of the blanks. Please contact our Client Solutions Specialists through the form on our Get in Touch page. They can point you in the right direction and provide a free estimate if research is needed.
So me and my best friend met in band class this year. Her Great Uncle is my 1st cousins dad what does that make her to me?
Through research, I have discovered that my maternal aunt married my 12th cousin on my father’s side. If I understand correctly, does that make his daughter, who is my first cousin on my mother’s side, my 12th cousin once removed on my father’s side? Also, how are my father and this uncle related?
Hi so my auntie is dating my friends uncle does that make us cousins or anything
Hi Dylan, thank you for your question, although the answer is no – your aunt dating your friend’s uncle does not make you cousins. If you are interested in learning about your family history, please contact us by filling out the form on our Get in Touch page. We can give you a free estimate based on your needs.
What does it mean if my dads mom (grandma) gets married to my aunts mom, but my aunts husband is my dads brother??
In this case, your aunt’s mom would be your step-grandparent. If your aunt and your dad’s brother have any children, then your cousins’ maternal grandmother would also be their paternal step-grandparent.
If my grandpa had my child with someone but they never got married and she breaks up with him and gets with someone else and has 2 more kids then are her other 2 kids related to me whatsoever?
How is the child that your grandfather had with this woman related to you? Is it your father or mother?
I didn’t mean to say my child I meant to say a child but anyways the child is my uncle aka my moms half brother
Based on this description, you would not be biologically related to your half-uncle’s maternal half siblings.
so im not related to my uncles brothers??
That is correct. Biologically you are not related to your half-uncle’s maternal half siblings.
thank goodness because I think his brother likes me
That is helpful then to not be related:)
But like if me and his brother ever got together wouldn’t that be weird?
Not from a DNA standpoint since you aren’t biologically related. For family dynamics that would be a personal decision, I suppose.
Hi…so am dating this guy,,his father’s step mother is my auntie but from a step grandmother…are we related?
Based on this description, you are not biologically related. So that’s good news since you are dating.
My 11th Great Grandfather is the 4th G. Grandfather of President James Madison and the 9th G. Grandfather of President Theodore Roosevelt. How then am I related to these two Presidents?
Assuming that you descend from your common ancestor through the same spouse (rather than through another wife), you would be 5th cousins 7 times removed to James Madison and 11th cousins twice removed from Theodore Roosevelt. If you or they descend from a different spouse of your common ancestor, then they could be half 5th cousins 7 times removed or half 11th cousins twice removed respectively.
Thank you! I wasn’t expecting such a quick response so I did the research and came to with the same as you. 5th Cousin 7 X Removed to Madison and Teddy Roosevelt’s 11th Cousin. Although I didn’t get the twice removed
Would it make much of a difference that I am actually directly related to Sir Richards daughter Ann Williamson – Place? She is my 10th Great Grandmother. I assume this would just lower the numbers by one? Madison: 4th G. Grandfather 6 times removed and Roosevelt 10th Cousin once removed?
That is correct. What a fun family tree.
Thank you! Actually this particular relationship is one of three places my Paternal Amburgey and Maternal Allen meets. Sir Richards Mother is an Alleyne “Allen” (directly related) and daughter Ann is related back to my 2nd G. Grandmother, wife of William “Tanner Bill” Amburgey. So related twice in this spot. Benjamin Franklin 5th G. G.G., Sir Isaac Newton 10th, Shakespeare 11th, Robert the Bruce 20th. Pocahontas 6th, All Stewart Kings of Scotland, King Richard II “The Lion Heart 18th, & dozens more back to 0530 AD.
That’s an incredible family tree with so many connections. Thanks for sharing.
Well, I have been working on my Relationship with Queen Elizabeth II and I have her as my 13th Cousin. Genetics are sometimes difficult to understand as I am closer to President Theodore Roosevelt and President James Madison. Well, happy that I at least watched the Funeral on TV. LOL.
I have about 21,500 people in my Tree so with that many connections people just keep coming up. I am working on Queen Elizabeth II now, starting with King Henry VII. But have found, so far, that we are related thru Mary Stewart Queen of Scots, (My 11th G. Grand-Aunt), for sure. Seems to be a direct line from there down to Queen Elizabeth II.
If you don’t mind I could use your help to figure our exact relationship. If so I will give you my email incase I loose you: [email protected].
It may work best to set up a consultation with a genetic genealogist to be able to confirm and establish all of the relationships in question. You can schedule a consultation at: https://www.legacytree.com/genealogy-consultation. That way you get get all your questions answered at one time.
Thank you! It rained all weekend so I spent some research time and did all the tracing myself and it took 15 connections to get to Elizabeth II and King Charles II, of present day. Turns out Queen Elizabeth was my 13th Cousin and that makes the King my 13 Cousin 1 X Removed. Also, along the way, found King Henry VIII as my 13th Great granduncle. I have always loved History, even since School and College, so this is fun.
I am now going to search more on my 19th Great Grandfather; King Charles IV of Bohemia (1319-1378). He was King of Bohemia, King of Italy and Holy Roman Emperor. If interested, I’ll let you know.
Tandy L. Amburgey
so my mom and uncle have the same dad (my grandpa) but different moms so if my uncles mom has 2 sons with another man are her sons related to me?
I believe this is the same question you were asking before. Biologically you are not related to your half-uncle’s maternal half siblings.
Isaac and Adam are paternal first cousins.
Isaac’s son Robert is my father.
Neil is Adam’s son.
What is my relationship to Neil?
Hi Cheryl, thank you for reaching out to us in such a fun way! Here is a link to a handy and free Legacy Tree Genealogy family chart that you can download. This should answer your question! If you would like any assistance, feel free to contact us on our Get in Touch page for a free estimate on family tree research.